Let’s Talk About Love: Renata Bikar

I once read Belcourt’s quote that said,
“To love someone, is to firstly confess,
I’m prepared to be devastated by you”.


I once read a quote of yet another man,
It seems that in life
People who love you
Don’t know how to show it.
And, people who hate you,
Don’t know how to hide it.

I once wrote a poem, about love.
It went like this;
Love first mesmerizes you,
then, it crushes you.
And then, it mesmerizes you,
and then, it crushes you again.
And then, it mesmerizes you again,
and then, it crushes you again.
You get the point…

I once thought of love, as a heartbeat.
The heart beats,
then it rests,
then it beats,
and then, it rests again.

Scientists, actually discovered,
that the heart rests more than it beats.
That is the reason why it lives so long.

If we think of a heart beat
as blossoming in love,
and if we think of heart’s rest
as suffering in love,
it makes sense, doesn’t it?
Because every relationship I heard of,
and have experienced,
had more pain than beauty.

Of course, when our eyes sparkle,
when we can’t remove that smile from our face,
and when we have a spring in our step,
it seems like it swallows up all devastation from the past.

But once we are on the other side,
when we feel crushed, betrayed and abandoned,
it swallows up all those rosy moments from the past.

In both situations,
songs carry us either higher,
or crush us even further.

And we hope,
we try,
so many times,
to ride on the merry go round.

And every time we fall off,

Until we decide not to try anymore.
And just wait for somebody else to fall off.
And see if they would be willing to walk away with us.

And when even that fails
We never go to the park ever again.

It is hard to explain, isn’t it?
We get so lost when we talk about love…


“Why do I love you so much?
It is not supposed to be like this!
I hate how much I love you!”

I once thought of love as breathing.
Inhale,
Exhale.
Inhale,
Exhale.
Beam,
Suffer.
Beam,
Suffer.


Is love a circle?
Or is it an everlasting pattern?
Does it have a pendulum swing?
Or is it just like one step in a heavy snow storm?

I’m not trying to define love,
I just want to remind all of us,
that we are part of the same “love club.”
And that we are constantly somewhere in love’s spectrum.

So, love!